Just the other day, I had a conversation with a female coworker and it went as follows:
Coworker: Oh your hair is cute.
Me: I can’t stand it. I had a hair emergency this morning and I just threw this together.
Later that day with a different female coworker.
Me: I like your shirt.
Coworker 2: It’s alright. I’ve had it for years.
Did you notice anything special about the two exchanges? Each exchange starts with a compliment, but neither I nor Coworker 2 said thank you to the compliments. Instead we diminished it and then rationalized our appearance. Why?
Recently Dove hired an FBI forensics sketch artist to draw two blind sketches of women, one based on the women’s description of themselves and the other based on a strangers description. The differences in the drawings are as troubling as they are telling. The women often times described every single imperfection they have without really acknowledging their positive attributes However, the strangers’ descriptions presented the women youthfully and more approachable.
As women, we have to be able to encourage ourselves and find our beauty.
You can’t a make positive impression on others if you have negative impression of yourself. Getting caught up in the “I’m too this…” or “This is too far apart…” critiques distracts you from the simple truth: God made you perfect as He saw fit and He does not make mistakes.
Here are some things you can do daily to help you see your beauty:
1. Remind yourself daily that you are beautiful.
2. Every day, find something different that you like about yourself.
3. Smile! It’ll help you feel lighter and make you look more approachable.
4.Take care of yourself. Get a good night’s sleep. Take vitamins. Eat healthy. A healthy you is a beautiful you.
5. Buy yourself something pretty. Wearing a new dress or new eye shadow that you know makes you look good will make you feel good. It’s much easier to do Number 3 when you feel good.
6. Write mantra’s on sticky notes and put them on a mirror or anyplace that you will see them consistently. Below are a few to get you started.
- I am precious to me.
- Being a woman makes me precious.
- Because I am a woman I am strong
- I am proud of my body for what it is.
- I can accept myself for who I am.
- I recognize and honor my talents, abilities, and skills.
- I feel confident from the inside out.
- I say positive things about myself to myself.
- I love and approve of myself.